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October Book Review: Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Controlling Men

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Domestic Violence

This month we become aware of what occurs behind closed doors that is rampant in our society: domestic violence. October, the month of pumpkin lattes and autumn-rich colors, is also deemed National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As a subject of interest and experience, I have decided to feature Lundy Bancroft’s, Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, as October’s book review.

What is domestic violence and why should you care?

According to Wikipedia, “Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior which involves violence or other abuse by one person against another in a domestic context [in order to control the other], such as in marriage or cohabitation. Intimate partner violence is domestic violence against a spouse or other intimate partner. Domestic violence can take place in heterosexual or same-sex relationship [and can take] a number of forms including physical, emotional, verbal, economic and sexual abuse, which can range from subtle, coercive forms to marital rape and to violent physical abuse that results in disfigurement or death. Globally, a wife or female partner is more commonly the victim of domestic violence, though the victim can also be the male partner, or both partners may engage in abusive or violent behavior, or the victim may act in self-defense or retaliation. Domestic violence often occurs because the perpetrator believes that abuse is justified and acceptable.”

A growing epidemic, domestic violence affects individuals in every community worldwide regardless of age, economic status, education level, race, religion, nationality, sexual orientation or gender. It has been passed on from generation to generation, and if not eradicated, it will continue to destroy equality, freedom and peace, all of which, as inhabitants of this planet, we all seek and deserve.

Lundy BancroftAs a very informative and compelling read, Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Bancroft explains why men specifically choose to control and abuse women. He begins by thoroughly explaining the abusive mindset, followed by the behavior of abusive men in relationships and in the world, and concludes with how we can attain a violence-free world. His book covers early warning signs of abusive relationships, ten abusive personality types, the role of drugs and alcohol in the abusive relationship, what you can actually fix and what you cannot, and how to escape from an abusive relationship.  If you are a woman who believes you are in an abusive relationship, or you have experienced violence in a past relationship, this book will teach you the truth about why abuse occurs and what you can do to protect yourself.

A bit about the author, Lundy Brancroft:

Lundy Bancroft has spent over twenty-five years specializing in domestic violence and working with abusive men. He is also the former co-director of Emerge, the nations for first program for men who abuse women and teaches state and judicial agencies in how to best help and handle abusive men. In addition to Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Mr. Bancroft has written other books including: When Dad Hurts Mom, The Batterer as Parent and Should I Stay or Should I Go?

To learn more about Lundy Bancroft or to purchase a copy of Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, please visit: Lundybancroft.com.

To learn more about Domestic Violence, please read: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s Fact Sheets.

To learn more about abuse, control and abusive relationships, or if you are in an abusive situation and are in need of help, please reach out to a trained counselor 24/7 at The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233.

Vilma Reynoso, www.vilmareynoso.com, Inspiration for Creative Health. Abundant Life.

Copyright, 2014, Vilma Reynoso

 

 

 

Author: Vilma Reynoso

Vilma Reynoso is a freelance content writer & editor for the vegan & plant-based industries, a blogger, a vegan lifestyle educator, and an inspirationalist. She is the author of Vegan Green Smoothies by Vilms: 35 Easy, Nutritious and Delicious Recipes for Ultimate Health and Vitality. Her mission is to inspire and facilitate holistic transformation in people for a kinder, healthier planet. To learn more about Vilma and what she offers, visit vilmareynoso.com, iwritevegan.com, and vegoutwithvilms.com.

2 thoughts on “October Book Review: Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Controlling Men

  1. It is a classic must read, I wish I would have read that book in my twenties instead of Cosmo. I am glad you highlighted it.

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  2. You have no idea how much I wish I had read it in my twenties, too! LOL! Thank you.

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